When Bryan Met Lisa
19 August 2014 at 11:44 1
Lusito Land 2008

This is Bryan and my "Love Story"; how we met and got hitched.

I met Bryan about a month after my 21st birthday (he claims we met previously, but I can't recall it clearly). I had been in some questionable relationships up until this point (I don't know how my mom loved me through it) but was now concentrating on the last year of college and an internship, which would be my very first exposure into the working world. And of course, that's where I met him when I wasn't even looking. He was such a dork - he had khaki pants, long hair in his face, and the first time I saw him he was hunched over his computer. I didn't for one second ever take fancy to him during my internship, until the last day - I got drunk and my judgement was compromised, and suddenly I was dating him. I remember telling my mom after we'd been out on a few dates "He's not my type. AT. ALL." I really wasn't keen on him, and I really didn't expect things to last. He, on the other hand, was telling his folks I would be the girl he'd marry.

A few short weeks down the line, I fell head of heels in love with him. It hit me by complete surprise, but once I let myself fall for him, our love just grew and grew. And that's how love works, doesn't it? Sometimes we're attracted to good looks, sometimes we fall in love with our best friend, sometimes we get drunk and land in Mr. Right's arms.

So here I was a young woman, just starting with life, and had met the man I would marry. We soon moved in together (into a stable which had been turned into a "home"...) and started our careers.

We both claimed to be Christians, but we had both wondered off that path, and I guess we were both trying to ignore it in our relationship - after all, we both knew deep in our hearts we shouldn't be living together. However, we were both drawn to a local church at the end of 2008, and this is where God really started working in our lives and hearts.

We had previously left a church, because they had told us we shouldn't be living together and the arrogant obnoxious youngster I was didn't want anyone telling me how I should live. When we found our new church (Village Church Lonehill), God slowly started working in our hearts. We were loved, and never once judged and a few months in, through the support of our love for each other, the church encouraged us to get married. We were never told, guilt-tripped or forced into anything. There was something very loving and understanding about their approach that can only have come from God himself. (And don't get me wrong - what we were doing was not ok - God loves us despite our hearts and lack of understanding, but he honours us when we honour him).

We got engaged in August 2009, and together we grew a real and proper love for God and each other. Near the end of 2009, we wanted to honour God fully before we got married, and I moved out. We only moved back in together after we were married in January 2010.

Our love story continues every day. It isn't perfect, and it most certainly isn't just between Bryan and I - it is a very serious and wonderful commitment we made before God 5 years ago, and every single day.

About Us
27 July 2014 at 21:55 0
My husband and I created this website in 2009 soon after we got engaged. We used as a wedding website, where people could find info on our upcoming wedding and RSVP to it. Soon after we were married, I began using it as a personal blog and I would write now on then on all sorts of random things, from holidays, to our pets, to eventful days such as The Home Affairs Saga. I used to only write once in a while, but have recently started writing more, with 2013 and 2014 being the most life changing years of my life (so far). Reading through some of my old posts, I realised it really captured our memories like nothing else could. So what started as a small wedding website, has developed into a life memoir for our family. I must warn you - my posts are brutally honest. You will not find perfect people in this family - we are broken, we make lots of mistakes and sometimes we want to kill each other. Despite everything, I know we are perfect for each other

A Little Bit About Our Family

At the time of writing this, we are a family of 4. Bryan, my best friend and husband, and father to our beautiful daughter and son. Me, a whirlwind of emotions, who tries (and sometimes fails) to be a good wife and mother inbetween. Our daughter Liya who is soon to be 6, and our son Tobi who is 3. We met and adopted Liya in 2013, when she was 11 months old and she forever changed our lives. In 2015, we adopted little Tobi at 3,5 months. The 'glue' of our family is our saviour, Jesus Christ. Bryan and I found our church in 2008 and together we found our place in His family. We honoured God with our marriage just over a year later as we said our vows in the very same church. We are still there, 10 years since we first found it, honouring God and Him honouring us and our family. Our church is more than just a building or a community, it's truly our spiritual family and the church we plan to grow in for the rest of our lives (God willing). I cannot imagine our lives any other way, and truly I know it was also God's plan for us.

A Little Bit of Personal History

Bryan was born in 1977 in Zimbabwe. His family lived in Harare, were well-off and happy, until they decided to move to the USA. Bryan spent 10 years travelling and working throughout the States, before he came to South Africa in 2005, where he began building his life from scratch with R700 to his name. I was born and bred in Joburg, South Africa, in 1987. I had a good childhood and not-so-good teen years, but the most important part of my youth was the Christian input from my mom. We went to church as a family, I got baptised at 13 and Jesus has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. I felt like life really settled and made sense when I met Bryan at the age 21 (Bryan was 31). We had without a doubt found each other at the right time, and after such difficult teen years, I felt like I had finally found my place in the world, and my destiny with my soulmate. 3 eventful years into our marriage, we adopted the most beautiful little girl who we call Liyalethu. She was the answer to years of prayer and longing, and she changed our lives more than I could have ever imagined. In the total 8 short years, we have experienced hard adjustments and the incredible rewards of marriage, starting and running a successful business, infertility, life-changing missionary trips to Mozambique, adoption and mental illness. I wouldn't change a single thing. I stand now with a complete heart for Jesus, which has been purified by fire. I have the most amazing life I could have ever asked for but it has not been easy, and I am not even close to 'good enough'. But we have Jesus and that's all we ever needed, and all we'll ever need.

About Lisa
12 June 2010 at 21:57 0
I was born and raised in the northern suburbs of South Africa and was brought up speaking English however because of my maiden name (du Plessis) I was often mistaken for speaking Afrikaans. People also thought I was related to all the du Plessis' in South Africa... Despite this hardship, I had a wonderful life leading up to meeting Bryan...

My Career Background

I went to Fairways Primary School, Eden College high school and The Design School college (yes, my high school was a college and my college was a school...). I knew most of my life that I loved art and computers and wanted to use both in my career. I chose graphic design because that was my art on computers, and I enjoyed it for the most part. At the same time, I had been learning basic web language (HTML) on the side with a virtual pet site I played on but never took it seriously. In my final year of college, I realised I wanted to be a web designer and my graphic design was a great basis for it. I did an internship at a small web firm and was soon creating my own websites and never stopped. I met Bryan at my Internship. We hit it off in my first 3 weeks there and began dating officially from the 11th April 2008. I did my internship when I could while I studied and when I graduated, I worked there one month before joining the company I am with currently. My internship was wonderful but Bryan was the best thing I got out of it. Bryan and I work in similar fields and this is perhaps the number #1 reason we get on so well.

Cow Obsession...

The second reason would probably be his support of my cow addiction... When we were in the early dating stages, I began collecting cows but it wasn't anything major. Bryan however, began feeding this small addiction and I received cows for every occasions, special or not.  We now have cows strewn all through the house... in the kitchen, bedroom, bathroom and every corner of the house you can find. Now, whenever people see a cow, they think of me (whether that's a good thing or not is still under discussion) and we received many cow presents for our wedding. Otherwise, I love tasty things such as asparagus and candy, I love coffee especially when I'm designing (I don't work well unless I'm under the influence of coffee) and I am also a firm Christian.

Our Faith

Bryan and I joined a lovely church when we moved into our first home called Lonehill Village Church. We were both Christians but not as 'good' as we should have been... Because of the church, our faith increased and together we grew in our beliefs. We did the marriage course there, went on outreaches together and eventually got married there. We have a wonderful family of friend's and even though we have moved quite a bit away, we still go to the church and are growing in our faith every day.

Our Family

Since we got married, our family has increase to four members. We first got Lilian, a beautiful cat we adopted from FORA. We then adopted Jakiro, our Jack Russel, from a breeder, and this family wouldn't be complete without them. By the way, we named Jackie after a character in DotA (a multi player strategy game). Did I mention Bryan and I are big computer game fans? I seem to be the only girl who plays though...

Our Future

Bryan works from home doing two jobs, his clowning and his SEO. Perhaps one day when I am a better designer, we will start our own business together and I can work and be a mom from home. Yes, we plan to have children but only in a few years... For now, I am too happy keeping Bryan all to myself :)