A Blessing in Disguise
29 August 2014 at 20:35 0

Everyone knows the peculiar comments we get from strangers and friends alike. One particular comment that stands out for me, especially because it's said so often, is people telling me how blessed Liya is to have us.

Honestly, most of the time we forget Liya is adopted. She is so much ours, that adoption has simply become a formality. I also long got over having "missed out" on pregnancy and birth, and even missing the first year of my daughter's life. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't easy - it was (and sometimes still is) very difficult and I felt isolated and different for a very long time. When I finally mourned for the children I could never 'have' and started to get to know my little Liya, I realised blood didn't define whether I loved my child or not, nor how much. I remember cradling Liya one night as she slept in my arms, and feeling so much love for this little soul it hurt.

Every day I thank God for giving us this little girl, and that is why I find it peculiar that people tell us she's blessed to have us. She is most certainly the most amazing thing that has ever happened to us.

This last Sunday, we had a baby blessing for her and another very special little girl in our lives, Juliette. We don't believe in Christening or baptising (babies specifically) because it isn't biblical. What is biblical is Jesus loving and blessing children, and that's just what our church did.

A very special friend in our church, Marc Ries, prayed over Liya and us, and it so touched my heart. We know from the last 5 short years that honouring God brings us so much joy, and his prayer will forever remind me to continue in that:

"Father God, I thank You for Bryan and Lisa.
Thank You for them in this body.

I pray for them as a couple and ask that You please protect their marriage, may it always be centred in You.

I ask Holy Spirit that you would help them to be obedient in fulfilling their God-given responsibilities as a husband and as a wife and that they would be an example to Liya.

Please help them to love and honour one another.

I charge them today to teach Liyalethu the truth about Your Word in line with your instruction to us in Deuteronomy 6:6-9:
'And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to Liya, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.'

May Biblical truth always be the foundation of their home; and may their home be a sanctuary where all who enter will be tangibly aware that Almighty God dwells in this place.

In your gracious, loving and all-powerful name I pray this, Jesus. Amen."

She is most certainly our blessing in disguise.

Liya’s 2nd Birthday
2 August 2014 at 15:00 1
Today, our little angel turned 2, and we celebrated her birthday at Let's Meat in Lonehill, with family and friends. She has been in our lives for just over a year, meaning we've been parents for just over a year (We survived! She survived!). We celebrated our first Mother's and Father's Day this year and learnt a whole BUNCH of new things I decided I wanted to honour her - and our other kids in the future - every year on their birthday, to mark and remember the special year gone by.

Memorable Days:

  • 3 Aug 2013: Celebrated her 1st birthday. Most of our family and friends met Liya this day, and celebrated her birthday and 'arrival' into our family.
  • 12 Sep: Took her first, adorable steps
  • 27 Oct: Visited great gran Sheilagh in CT! Also her first flight
  • 27 Dec: 12 day holiday with Uncle Mark & Aunty Colly
  • 24 Jan 2014: Started swimming lessons with daddy
  • 29 March: First signs of potty training at 21 months!!
  • 9 April: Welcomed her cousin, Madison, into the world

Liya's first words:

  • Ta
  • Dada
  • Mama
  • No (lol)

Some of Liya's first, and our favourite, 'sentences':

  • "I not naughty"
  • "Bye ouma. See you morrow"
  • "Food cold. Daddy naughty"
  • "Daddy come" with the hand gesturing daddy as we leave the house
  • "Pease" and "Tank you"
  • "Oupa? Kom skep!"
  • "Where's mommy/daddy?"
  • "No" and "Ja" are of course suitable answers for ALL questions
  • Pointing seriously at my food "Eat mommy"

Liya's favourite songs:

  • Twinkle Twinkle
  • I Love You (Barney)
  • Thank You Jesus (Prayer)
  • Baby Bible class songs (Biscuit song, goodbye etc.)
  • Old McDonald
What an incredible year it has been being Liya's mommy. Everyone who meets her, loves her; she has an amazing social personality, and she is super well-behaved. We are loving every second of watching her grow and learn, and all the hilarious things that come out of her mouth that are such a true reflection of her mom and dad (from shouting at the dogs, to demanding you eat your food and correcting us when we have song actions wrong). A special thanks to all our amazing family who have supported us, and loved her so dearly. It made our first year of parenting so amazing.